Foreword
Special Acknowledgments
Introduction
PART I: DEVELOPING UNDERSTANDING
Chapter 1. My Struggle As a Parent
Chapter 2. What My Personal Experience Has Taught Me
Parental Rigidness
Cause-Effect Behavior
Emotional Enmeshment
Loss of Self Esteem
A Sense of Perspective/New Learning
The Power Struggle
Chapter 3. Attention Deficit Disorder from the Inside Out
What is Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder?
I Do Not Remember!
Inattentiveness
Hypersensitivity
Hyperactivity (ADHD Trait)
Impulsiveness (ADHD Trait)
Peer Relationships
Some Frequently Asked Questions
Rejected Parents
A Prescription from the Horse's Mouth
Chapter 4. Your Child Can Change: Teaching Your Child New Behavior
Developing a Plan for Your Child
Planning Helps the Parent
Five Basic Rules
Chapter 5. Charting the Course to a New Life: Motivating Your Child to Change His or Her Behavior
A Few Comments
Another Look at ADD
Verbal Encouragement
Nonverbal Encouragement
Indirect Verbal Encouragement
Tangible Rewards and Privileges
Point Charts
Negative Incentives
Phasing Out the Reward System
Moving Forward
Chapter 6. Changing What Happens Inside: Empowering Your Child
Understand That Your Child Needs Special Help
Invite Your Child into the Decision- Making Process
Negotiate with Your Child
Allow Your Child to Make Choices
Praise Liberally
Use Medication Appropriately
Do Not Interact with Your Child or Make Decisions When You are Emotionally Upset
Chapter 7. Lessons for Parents
Self-Check
Modeling
Contact
Awareness
Choice (Empowerment)
Reinforcement
Putting it All Together
Chapter 8. New Perspectives on ADD Medication
Chapter 9. Putting it All Together
A Summary of the Steps
Applying the Behavior Techniques We Discussed
Discussions with Your Child
Self-Monitoring, Choice, and Reinforcement for the Parent
Use of Point Charts
What Ages Should My Child Be to Benefit from the Information Summarized?
PART II: SPECIFIC PROBLEM BEHAVIORS (WORKING WITH CHILDREN AGES FOUR TO FOURTEEN)
Chapter 10. Taming Aggression
Parent's Composure Review
Time Out Review
Problems Dealing with Aggressive Behavior
Conduct Disorder
Chapter 11. Temper Tantrums
Why Do Children Throw Temper Tantrums?
Distinguishing Between Temper Tantrums and Disrespect
Stopping Temper Tantrums
Chapter 12. Teaching Respect
Improving My Behavior List
Parent's Composure Review
Chapter 13. Time for Chores
How to Motivate Your Child to Do Chores
Suppose This Does Not Work
Examples of Typical Problems I Have Encountered
Chapter 14. How to Help Your Child with School
Problems with Focusing
Hyperactivity and Impulsiveness
Additional Notes
A Final Word
Chapter 15. Easing the Homework Struggle
Helping Your Child
Communicating with Your Child's Teacher
Interventions
Chapter 16. Peers and Socialization
Relationship Problems
A Social Skills Model
Coaching Your Child
Entering the Social Arena
Chapter 17. Daily Challenges and How to Meet Them
Four Basic Rule
Additional Problem Behaviors
Going Forward
PART III: PROBLEMS OF ADOLESCENTS AND YOUNG ADULTS
Chapter 18. The Challenging Teen Years
Case Examples
Chapter 19. What Parents Need to Know
Parenting Styles
Parental Pitfalls
Parental Resources
A Few Notes
Chapter 20. Adolescent Anger
Conduct Disorder
Oppositional Defiant Disorder
Preventive Parenting
Chapter 21. School Problems
Guidelines for Parents Whose Teenagers Have Difficulty in School
Typical Problems
Chapter 22. Winning with Drug and Alcohol Problems
ADD Teens and Substance Abuse
Signs of Drug Use
Managing Drug Use
A Final Note
Chapter 23. Additional Teenage Problems
Messy Rooms
Sibling Fights
Curfew
Homework
Truancy
Out of Control
Learning to Step Back
Index
Reference Notes Included